Same Sex Parents”Whatever the final equation of factors influencing sexual orientationand identity, there’s an immediate implication for the increasing number of gaysand lesbians forming families” (Of Boys 27). Today, many gays and lesbians are out of the closet and they are not afraid of facing society with what manypeople consider abnormal sexual orientations. We must now ask ourselves thequestion: is homosexuality really an abnormal lifestyle? Is it still againstthe norm? Homosexuals are just like everyone else in every way aside from theirsexual preferences.
Why should adoption be an area where gays and lesbians arediscriminated against? Without the constraints and pressures of demographicnorms, the idea and practice of homosexual adoption has no known harmfulimplications upon the children involved. Therefore, I find it unnecessary torestrict their rights and desires to adopt and raise children in families justas you or I would.An adoption agency looks for good qualities in a foster home. Qualitiessuch as financially security, emotional stability, and proper role models.
Judge Judith S. Kaye wrote that …adoption is a means of securing the bestpossible home for a child (Facts on File 894). Some might argue that the childwould be lacking the father in a lesbian couple and a mother in a gay couple.
Sure, little Joey might not have a male role-model around the house, but all thekids raised by single mothers seem to be okay. Children who lose a parent andare raised in single parent households are not harmed. Or are they? If theyare, they are affected in just the same way as children raised by gay andlesbian couples that is, couples who are lacking a male or female role model.Children raised with parents of the same sex develop positive tolerances.They tend to have more positive outlooks, and have a degree of passiveness thatmakes them to better adapt to today’s changing society. A child raised by gayparents has a better chance of getting along with a future employer thatpossesses a quality he or she disagrees with.
This, by no means, is to say thatthis reason alone is sufficient for legalization of homosexual adoption, but itdoes, however, point out a very desirable side-effect that is becomingincreasingly helpful in today’s changing world a side effect that encouragesand assists our human race in its effort towards total equality. Many peopletend to think that children raised by same sex couples might be influencedtowards a homosexual lifestyle themselves. This, however, has not been the case.After Kristin Dozier’s 9th birthday, her mother divorced and re-married.Kristin was fifteen at the time when she said,My experience proves thisargument wrong (171).
Today Kristin lives with her boyfriend and claims thatshe does not …have lesbian urges.
Kristin came to peace abouthomosexuality due to her close exposure to the lifestyle. In other words, shedid have trouble accepting it earlier in life. She …
would make up storiesto explain Diane’s presence…
to her friends that would sleep over (171).These types of situations certainly do not help kids during the most self-conscious periods of their lives.There are many children out there in need of good foster care and I findit ridiculous to waste all the love those families have to offer over somethingso minute -simple discrimination is what this is really all about. Until we canopen our eyes as a people and realize the constraints we blindly put uponourselves, we will continue to fall short of our full potential.